“Sticks and
stones may break my bones,
but words will never hurt me.”
I recall
hearing these very words as a young child.
I did not question their validity;
I don’t know that I even gave them
much of a thought.
It was just something
we would call out if we needed a boost of courage during an ugly moment.
It would often end the dispute and all was
well.
As an adult, I take issue with
this statement.
Words have
lasting effect for good or otherwise.
And once spoken cannot be taken back.
Words
contain power;
they have a force that penetrates deep within.
When used correctly, our words build, support
and encourage.
When used incorrectly,
the damage is far greater than any stick or stone could inflict.
Words can
help us to achieve our best and highest aspirations or leave us feeling
distraught and defeated.
All too
often, we don’t consider how meaningful and impactful the words we share with
the world may be.
Are we building or demolishing?
Are we cheering and sustaining
or discouraging
and condemning?
This world needs a
little more tenderness, warmth and affection…
and what better place to start
than in our very homes?!
As we ponder
the words that may come from our lips to the ones we most cherish in this
world, we would do well to choose them wisely.
In our home,
I have the words,
"The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice",
"The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice",
displayed where I see them many
times each day.
There is a purpose in
this.
I cannot say that I have always
thought before speaking,
or that I have always chosen the very best words to
share with those I love.
There are times
of high frustration that I speak and wish I could take back the ugliness that
flew from my mouth, but I cannot.
Knowing all too well the lasting effect of harsh words, I strive to be
better and to share words of kindness and encouragement with our kids.
The words
spoken to us
as well as the words we tell ourselves,
have a lasting footprint
on our hearts.
And just as the quote
above states,
the words we hear directed to us become our inner voice.
I wish for the inner voice of my children to
be filled with all the positives this world has and be spared the negative,
heartbreaking thoughts they would be better off without.
When I think
of how my words impact others, I draw in a deep breath, and choose biting my
tongue near in half, if necessary, just to spare the negative effects of a
nasty word during moments of strife and contention.
As a mother,
I would like the power of my words to be for good – to boost our children, to
enlighten, to inspire, to motivate and invigorate, to embolden and fortify them
against all that life may throw their way.
The last thing they need is a mother to use words that might kill the
beautiful spirit they possess, or to belittle and deprecate the amazing power
they have within.
So I will be shouting
out all the beautiful words that come to mind as I think of how lucky I am to
be the mother of this amazing family!
What words
would you choose to share with your kids if you had but just a few words to
leave them with???
Wishing you
a month filled with powerful words that will create lasting bonds between you
and your sweet families!
Hugs!
Stacey
(Written as DHSA President's Message for April)
